Grief boundaries are expectations and limits you set with others (and yourself) that help you during your grief experience. Boundaries create a healthy space for you to grieve and can help you nurture closer relationships during this immensely difficult time.

Healthy relationships cannot exist without boundaries. Yet creating the emotional and physical boundaries you need during your grieving process can be challenging. Where do you begin? I help people navigate the boundary-setting process during their time of grief.


Setting healthy boundaries in grief is both challenging and necessary.

Why set boundaries?

Without grief boundaries, grief can feel inauthentic. People don't understand how or when we need them to show up.

Boundaries protect your space, your mental health, and your personal grieving process. Boundaries in grief can ease the burden of having others say or do what they think is best for you during your time of grief.

Telling others what you need can prevent additional pain, anxiety, and depression while grieving. It's important that you have a sacred space to grieve as you see fit. And this is what personal boundaries help you do.

Create a Sacred Space for You to Come to Terms with Your Loss.

Tell Friends, Partners, and Family What You Need for a Healthy Grieving Process.

Prevent others from violating your personal space while grieving.

If you have an absence of grief support, boundaries can help you get the support you need.

Set healthy limits for yourself during this difficult time.

Benefits of setting boundaries in grief:

What are common grief boundaries?

Grief boundaries can vary from person to person, but some common ones include asking for support, declining support, and setting limits around your physical or emotional space.

For example, you may ask others not to come to your house without asking first, tell them that you need time alone, decline an invite to a dinner or outing, or tell others you don't have the emotional capacity to listen to them right now. Being assertive and advocating for yourself can be incredibly hard during grief when your energy is drained and you are having trouble coping with daily life. But there is a way to create the sacred space you need and protect yourself during this immensely vulnerable time.

You don't have to navigate the boundary-setting process on your own.

You are not rude or mean for setting boundaries!

As a recovering people-pleaser and codependent, I know setting boundaries in grief can feel terrifying.

Before I set boundaries, I would let people do whatever they wanted, even while I was grieving. I would let them hug me when I did not want a hug. I would let them drop off food I had no intention of eating. I talked to people when I felt like what I most needed in the world was a good cry alone.

Your grief is absolutely worth honoring, and one of the best ways to do that is by setting boundaries. You will look back on this time and be glad you advocated for your wounded heart.

Identify your wants and needs

By better understanding your needs, we will create small, manageable goals for you to achieve when setting boundaries while grieving.

Safely Advocate for Yourself

For trauma survivors and those grieving, advocating for ourselves can feel like scary and unfamiliar terrain. I help you create the resiliency you need to speak up even when you're afraid. 

Hold your Ground

Setting boundaries is the first step. Upholding them is a different thing altogether. As your boundary Grief Coach, I help you set those boundaries and stick to them in ways that work for you.

How I support you with setting healthy boundaries in grief:

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You deserve to have the space you need to grieve and have others show up for you in ways that feel good for you. I promise that while boundary setting can feel scary and intimidating, it gets easier with practice.

I help you set those boundaries and stick to them to protect your peace. Schedule a free session and let's talk about your boundary goals and how I might be able to help.

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You are the expert of your life and your experiences.

Grief is an overwhelming experience with difficult emotions, but you don't have to navigate this rocky terrain alone.

Let’s talk about where you’re at, what you’re struggling with, and where you want to be. I’m listening.

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